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men who think that complimenting me through talking shit about another woman…*rolls eyes*. i’m not interested in a compliment that inherently puts down another.

I was at dinner with a guy i was talking to and his friends and he  was talking so badly about a couple of women sitting at the opposite end of the table of us. at first, i decided he was just drunk and i would ignore it. but after awhile it started to bother me and when i expressed my annoyance he told me i should be happy he was talking about them like that. i was like, “why would i be happy?” and he said because i was so obviously a 10 and they were 4’s.

listen, first off, that would suggest that your opinion is so important to me that it would have some bearing on my ego.  and not only would that be presumptuous and arrogant, but it would also be wrong. secondly, why in the world would that make me happy? as though my self esteem is wrapped up in other women and your thoughts of them. personally, i wouldn’t care if you thought they were pretty because that would have no bearing on my own personal knowledge of how damn badd i am. and thirdly, that shit was just rude as hell for no reason. i can’t stand people like that. to just dog out two women who you don’t know for no reason other than sport is such a turn off. and don’t try and disguise it as being “real.” no nigga, you’re just mean spirited as hell. get away from me.

daniellemertina:

blackfoxx:

basinbeautee:

kathereal:

asemissade:

We are a forgotten people…….

it was obligatory to reblog this. we’re out here like the unicorns. 

daniellemertina:

i always see women having to debate their standards for men with people. especially black women. you don’t have to debate YOUR standards. you don’t need to lower YOUR standards or change YOUR standards so that random men’s egos aren’t destroyed by the real knowledge that they’ll never be good enough for you. once you start debating you’re already saying you don’t have the rights to want what you want for your OWN life. when you do have that right. so tell those niggas to swerve. 

i overheard some girls talking at work today and one of them was complaining about her boyfriend. she was like, “all i do is try and give him unconditional love and he just don’t even notice it.” ugh…i hear this concept of unconditional love used in romantic relationships and i cringe inside. i do not agree to the concept of unconditional love in romantic relationships. my love has conditions, and you damn sure better meet those conditions before i give you the chance to experience my love. only person i expect to give out unconditional love is God…and I aint Him. do i look like i died on a cross to you? hmph, some of yall better get a clue…

eclecticspectrum:

Some days I get up and I think to myself:

• Why am I so fabulous?
• Why am I so adorable?
• I can’t handle all this.
• Can I just stay here and stare at myself?